For Us: A Love Note for Struggling Parents

I wrote this for myself, to lovingly and boldly address the part of me that sometimes believes I’m not doing a good enough job as a mother. May it feed the soothing voice in you and help to turn down the volume on your own worries.

xo, Breana

Right now is a particularly challenging time in your parenting journey, and that’s ok. Your kids are growing a lot – transitioning through adolescence into adulthood. This is new for all of you, you are all learning how to meet this new time in your lives, to grow and expand into it. Sometimes you’re at a loss — you feel scared and helpless and like you’re messing it all up — and that’s ok. It’s better than ok, it’s perfect. This is your brain, working to create new connections. Growing and evolving, pressed to its edge and actively working out new creative solutions. This is your heart, opening and expanding, becoming bigger and even more able to hold all that Life presents you.

Even while things are scary and hard, may there be parts of your parenting that you feel good about and love. May you love how lighthearted you can be with your kids, and how much fun you are able to have together. May you like how much you enjoy them and care about them deeply as people. May you appreciate your practice of seeing them as they truly are. May you acknowledge the example you set for your kids of consistently moving toward what feels better, listening to your heart and following where it leads. May you find something new everyday to love about yourself as a parent.

May you know that even while you’re scared or hurting, it’s your birthright to cultivate a space of peace inside, to know you’re doing your absolute best in every moment, and to trust that you can set down the reigns of your vigilance so that you may rest and care for yourself. You get to be human along this journey of parenting, and you get to allow your kids to be human, too. You are all fumbling forward together, learning, growing, messing up, and being people on this earth together.

Sometimes it feels so overwhelming and big, but for now, in this moment, you can do this. You can handle the unknown, the fumbling through, the worry that calls you back to presence. You can love your children fiercely, and enjoy your life and take care of yourself — even when you’re not guaranteed that they are safe or happy.

May you be willing to meet all of this. May you be willing to feel the pain of stretching and growing. May you be willing to walk yourself through right now. May you be willing to remember to let go of what you can’t control. May you be willing to catch yourself doing it wrong and course-correct. May you be willing to get better at letting things be what they are. May you be willing to learn through daily practice to take nothing personally. May you be willing to show up in love for and with them, over and over, knowing there are no guarantees. May you be willing to fall in love with the process of parenting — this journey of a lifetime. May you be willing to let them fall, let them feel the weight of their actions and to be there to love them as they deal with the consequences.

These moments can feel gut-wrenching, and you know other parents on planet earth sometimes experience circumstances with their kids that push them to their very edge. It’s ok for you to have this experience too. You’re just one more human being to know this particular painful circumstance, and you’re in good company. May you be willing to feel your oneness with all kinds of people all over the planet having this experience on different levels. You can feel compassion for them. May you flip that and extend it to yourself.

May you consider how you’re feeling now to be a part of your guidance system. Worry and guilt do not serve, and yet they call us to look at the pain — to not ignore it…to take action to relieve it. May you know that this experience serves you, that it is perfectly orchestrated for your evolution and you can trust it. May you see all of the ways that Life has carried you through so far, and know it just keeps getting better and better, the more you open and trust.

And so, may you just be in this moment — feel breath fill you with life, and smile with the joy and gratitude for getting to know these amazing beings so intimately. With appreciation for the ways Life constructs the perfect lessons to draw you toward the next right step on your unique path. And with trust that you can endure, survive, thrive-through, open-to, learn-to-love any experience Life brings.


*This piece was born out of a homework assignment given by the brilliant Jaya The Trust Coach, taken from her Expansion! class. If you’re in a time of life where you feel pressed to your edge, her wisdom and guidance can help you return to the truth of yourself and this loving universe.

“Help, I’m Sick!” Using essential oils during flu season

The same day I received my first doTERRA package in the mail, in November of 2015, I got knocked on my ass with the flu. Just like the NyQuil commercial, I was a sniffling, sneezing, coughing, aching, stuffy-headed feverish mess.

I knew next to nothing about essential oils–just hopeful that they would ease some of my pain from years of VRS interpreting (and they did!)–but I thought they couldn’t hurt. That flu was the best test of their powers, and by the time I had recovered I was singing their praises. They didn’t cure my illness magic-style, but they did ease the pain, help me breathe, quiet my throbbing head, and let me get enough rest that my body could do its job fighting and get me back on my feet again.

Now, when I help people get their first oils, I’m surprised by what a common story this is — to open your first box of oils just as you’re coming down with a sickness. I get asked all the time:

“How do I use my oils when I’m sick?”

I taught this mini-class on Winter Wellness so that I could share my answers with all of you loves. I outlined my notes below, but watch the whole video (15 minutes) to get the instructions. If the sickies do strike your house, I want you to know what to do and be prepared to handle it!

Using Your Top 10 Oils During Cold & Flu Season
What you need to know!

Prevention Is Key

Oils that boost immune function and fight bacteria and viruses:

  • On Guard
  • Melaleuca
  • Oregano
  • Frankincense  

Additional supports for immune system:

  • PB Assist  
  • On Guard Plus softgels

When You’re Sick, Oils Can Ease the Pain

  • Breathe – soothes cough
  • Peppermint – opens airways
  • Lemon – reduces congestion
  • DigestZen – calms upset stomach
  • Deep Blue – soothes body aches and soreness
  • Lavender – calms emotions and sore skin

The Winter Wellness mini-class details how to use each oil — CLICK HERE TO WATCH

 

If you don’t yet have oils in your home and you have a pulse (99.9% of humans and pets should have essential oils in their medicine cabinet) — CLICK HERE to grab a 30-minute spot on my calendar. I promise you a zero-pressure conversation focused on your family’s needs. When it’s midnight and your kid wakes you from a peaceful slumber to tell you she puked all over her bed, you’ll be so glad you have them at the ready. Your oils won’t put the sheets in the washing machine for you, but they will soothe her tummy, help her immune system fight off the bug, and help you all get back to sleep — with no toxic chemicals or side effects.

If you want to learn more about using essential oils in your home for first aid, emotional support, personal growth, pain-relief and balancing hormones, follow me on Instagram here. I’m getting ready to re-launch my page with daily education and inspiration, weekly live videos and lots of love and support for you. Please let me know if there are topics you’d like me to cover!

Additional Resources

Here are two fantastic resources if you’re looking for the nerdy low-down on why oils are so darn effective.

Shannon Becker Ph.D. Essential Oils to Prevent the Spread of Flu.
Dr. Dave R. Steuer. Killing Bacteria with Essential Oils.

Stay well, loves!!

It’s a New Month!

 

Sunrise photo of Mt. Hood. "Today is a new day."We are one month into 20-shine-teen (thank you, Elizabeth Gilbert)!

According to US News, 80% of New Year’s resolutions fail by the second week of February. How’s it going for you? Are you experiencing what you want to experience so far? Do you feel like you’re on track, or like you’re running to catch up?

January in my world has been a mixed bag (ooh, welcome to Life!). Ups and downs and a few loopty-loops later, and here we are in February. Today I’m taking a few minutes to reflect and refresh, savoring this opportunity to begin again.

I’m reminded of the concept of beginner’s mind – in which we are called to meet every moment, every person, every experience, with a knowledge that this is the first and last time we will ever be right here. We can meet this moment as a novice, accepting all that we bring to it, all that has prepared us to meet it, and all that we have yet to learn.

As an example, currently Life is bringing me many parenting lessons. I feel and see the growth that has taken place in me and in my kids over the last year, and at the same time, I’m on the very cutting edge of my own evolution (as are they). I have never been the parent of a 17 year old daughter before…let alone the unique, specific daughter I have today. She has never been this daughter before today. This is our first time! Every day is my very first day parenting this version of my children…learning and adapting to what they need at this stage in their lives. This idea brings me such comfort and willingness to stay curious and keep trying. I’m not expected to know it all or get it perfect!

So on this first day of February, with my to-do list growing by the minute and my kids needing different things than they’ve ever needed before, I’m reminding myself – this is a new month. A fresh opportunity to meet the next 28 days and all they hold with the wonder and curiosity of a child who’s meeting the sand for the first time.

I’d like to share some reminders and questions that are helping me today. Feel free to borrow them for yourself, mix them around, stretch them out, live into them in the way only you can, and let me know how it goes!

  • Begin again. Choose your own periods by which to measure time – 365 is a long stretch. Why not measure by each month, by the lunar cycle, or for very difficult periods of life: by each new day. What feels right to you for this phase of your life?
  • Become a scientist. Get curious, always gathering data and making improvements. Life is not all or nothing, it is often tiny successes here and there that make up a larger shift. When the calendar changes over to a new month, it’s a fantastic time to ask:
    • What worked?
    • What didn’t work?
    • Based on this information: What’s the next thing to do?
  • Be persistent. The trick to achieving what you set out to achieve? Just don’t quit. Photo of the sun breaking through clouds. "Fall down seven times, get up eight. -Japanese Proverb"

__________

Now, dear one, it’s your turn:

What do you do to start a new day or a new month fresh?

What reminders help you inhabit “beginner’s mind”?

100 Things for 2019

Photo of the clouds and orange sunset. "Do one thing every day that scares you. Eleanor Roosevelt"

I’m working through my Shining Year Workbooks, savoring every little bit of them, and am having so much fun dreaming into the little and big things I want to experience this year. My list grows daily, and I hope it will never be finished.

Can you help me get to 100?

100 60 Things for 2019

  1. Make a Life Book
  2. Get a dog
  3. Hand-letter something to hang on the wall
  4. Move >5 minutes a day
  5. Read 50 books
  6. Fix the Singer sewing machine
  7. Take a personal retreat
  8. Marry my best friend
  9. Stop using paper towels
  10. Make a collage card for each member of my family (Soul Collage-style)
  11. Take a road trip to a new place
  12. See live comedy
  13. Get a tattoo
  14. Give monthly
  15. Take a dance lesson with Chris
  16. Sunbathe nude
  17. Soak at The Everett House
  18. Learn harmony to a new song with Chris & Kylin
  19. Use Chris’ digital drawing pad
  20. Write a (work)book
  21. Learn a new art technique
  22. Record more of Grandma’s stories
  23. Visit Garden Valley
  24. Get my eyes checked (1/10/19 – 20/20 vision!)
  25. Rock the big project I’m working on
  26. Go to a Blazer game
  27. Make stickers and give them away
  28. Frame and hang some photos
  29. Get a new (to-me) van
  30. Keep my aloe plant alive
  31. Grow herbs on my balcony
  32. Give my family Aromatouch massages
  33. Visit a hot springs
  34. Have a pedicure
  35. Contribute monthly to my retirement
  36. Spend a day floating and reading on the water
  37. Star-gaze
  38. Hike a new trail
  39. Win at HQ
  40. Do a backbend
  41. Knit a hat
  42. Get an outdoor family hobby or ritual
  43. Float
  44. Get acupuncture
  45. Make fire cider
  46. Canvas for a political candidate I support
  47. Decorate the wall over the couch
  48. Go snowshoeing
  49. Practice more stillness with my kids
  50. Make a snowman
  51. Make dairy-free snow cream
  52. Watch an eclipse
  53. Go to the movies in my pajamas
  54. Finish B-School
  55. Fully fund my budget for the year
  56. Volunteer at Sisters of the Road
  57. Release a new Burnout Proof Academy course
  58. Spend a week at Brownlee
  59. Swim in the ocean
  60. Blog once a week

Tell me dear one,

What do you want to experience this year?

So much love to you.xo, Breana

It’s a New Year: CREATE

Picture shows a bowl which has been broken and put back together with gold. It says: "kintsukuroi: to repair with gold, the art of repairing pottery with gold or silver lacquer and understanding that the piece is more beautiful for having been broken."

I’m entering 2019 with a stronger heart. A more resilient heart. A heart that has been cracked wide open, has nothing left to lose, and yet cradles the most precious treasures in her soft velvety folds.

From this place of wholehearted openness, I set my intentions for this new year.

I claim 2019 as a year of deep joyful peace. A year where abundance freely flows, where I am connected and present with myself and my loves. Where I am clear and focused about my work and priorities. Where my simple, strong, abundant business thrives. Where my kids are happy and connected.

This year, I release worry. Draining, hole-digging, useless worry. I ask: What is my business here? What is mine to do? What can I appreciate about this situation? I release the rest.

I embrace creativity. Going deep instead of spreading thin and wide. Loving myself even more. Listening to my intuition.

Hand lettered picture with bright flowers drawn along the sides: "Create what sets your heart on fire and it will illuminate the path ahead."

I seek to CREATE consciously, in everything I do. Untethering my curiosity and self-expression, I allow my ideas space in my tangible world. I make time for art, I give birth to my visions, and I listen inside for the quiet whispers of direction.

The material Life provides is curated just for me. I trust this path and all that appears on it. I use it as fodder for my creation, weaving heartbreak with joy, confusion with comfort, light and dark — all synergizing to form a stronger, richer, more brilliant tapestry.

Will you join me?


Here are some questions to contemplate:

What is your guiding word for 2019?
What wants to be expressed through you this year?
What’s no longer serving you, that you’re ready to leave behind?

Thank you for being a part of this journey with me. Sending you so much love along your way.
xo, Breana

PS: If your 2019 goals include making more time for yourself, getting clear on your boundaries, moving toward joy and peace, or just generally loving your life and your self more — check out Burnout Proof Bootcamp. Our next session begins January 23rd, offers 1.5 GS CEUs for interpreters, and boasts a long list of rave reviews for its life-changing effects. 💖

2018 – Year in Review

2018 Year in Review. Nine photos in a collage that symbolize Breana's year.

2018 was the year of Breaking Open

What dreams came true – big and small?

  • Got my own apartment!
  • Transitioned to homeschooling Kiran
  • Presented at Street Leverage Live and the Canada VRS Summit
  • Found the love of my life
  • Stopped traveling for work – my family is happier!

What lessons did I learn?

  • How to be with myself through pain so big I didn’t think I could bear it
  • How to be vulnerable and honest with those closest to me, and how magically that opens the door to deeper connection (always a work in progress)
  • I can support myself and my kids on my own

I appreciate 2018 for:

  • Expanding and deepening my well of strength and my sense of what I can handle
  • Bringing me this friendship with Christopher that grew into a deep nourishing love
  • Showing me miracles and magic – the unseen forces at work in the dark times
  • Highlighting our support system and the big love that surrounds us
  • Bringing me closer to Source, feeling more trust and more peace

Quote of the Year:

Most influential book I read:

The Dark Side of the Light Chasers, Debbie Ford Debbie Ford quote: "Embracing our dark side gives us a new found freedom to be with the darkness in others. For when I can love all of me, I will love all of you."

Favorite movie of the year:

The Heretic

Most played song:

Clay, Manatee Commune

 

2018 held my highest high and lowest low. So much grief and joy in one year. I am a better parent because of it. A better friend, partner, lover and human. I am grateful…so fucking grateful.

I forgive myself for the debt and the extra weight. I accept it with love and feel better prepared to face it and learn from it and thrive through it in 2019.

Curbing my worry has been one of my biggest challenges. Learning to set healthy boundaries and hold empathy, without trying to control others or the outcome is still a work in progress I look forward to developing more this year.

Let your heart break daily quote by #iamhertribe


This is a tiny part of the New Year transition reflecting and planning that I do. Over the years I’ve used many resources, my favorite of which was the book Your Best Year Yet! — until I discovered Leonie Dawson this year and decided to try her My Shining Year workbooks.

Friends let me tell you: I am in L O V E!

If you don’t have an annual review and dreaming ritual yet, get yourself these workbooks and dive right in. She makes it fun and so effective.

Breana's legs and feet on the couch with a workbook in her lap titled "My Shining Year Life Goals Workbook" by Leonie Dawson


I would love to hear from you in the comments: 

What rituals or practices do you have for closing out one year and embracing the next?

Until next time, dear ones, so much love.

xo, Breana

Morning Routine: If you do nothing else today, do this

What if a five minute daily morning routine could magically make you more patient with your kids, consumers, and self?

In this video I share some ideas for creating and prioritizing this magical practice.

  • Why do a morning routine?
  • Where do I do it?
  • How long does it take?
  • What in the heck do I even do?
  • And a powerful mindset shift to help you make this date with yourself a priority.

You can read an example of a short process for being with yourself through hard emotions, when you find yourself stuck in a story or pattern that you’d like to release–this would make a fantastic morning routine!

I’d love to see you in the discussion, sharing your own tips and struggles! Just click here and join our free Burnout Proof Collective support group for sign language interpreters. I can’t wait to see you there!

xo,
b

PS: This preview photo below is so goofy I just *had* to leave it for you! Enjoy!!!

Take Care: Things to Lean on During Times of Tragedy

I’m far from the Parkland school shooting, and yet, feeling the waves of grief, anxiety and outrage. Here are just a few things I’m leaning on:

1. Breathe. Tragedy brings all of our emotions to the surface and puts our nervous system on hyperdrive. When you notice your tension, fear or grief, take a deep and purposeful inhale. This may need to happen every few minutes. Inhaling essential oils like Frankincense or Lavender can help calm the stress response.

2. Be extra gentle. Today may not be the day for super productivity. Today may be the day for extra breaks, crying, and a walk outside. This may be more possible sometimes than others, but as much as you can give yourself permission to follow your body’s impulses and needs. Dealing with emotions as they come can prevent the compounded suffering that can come from putting them off.

3. Do what you can. We may not be able to change what happened, but we may be able to work toward change for the future. Call your representatives, share important information through social media, be an ally to those who are directly affected. In whatever small or large way you are able, contribute to something that makes you feel a bit less powerless and helps to make a change.

Watch your mouth! How the stories you tell may be making you miserable.

Young woman with long brown braid, eyebrows raised, eyes wide, covering her own mouth with her hands

Today I want to talk about the stories we tell, how they actually serve to get us more stuck where we don’t want to be, and 3 steps you can take to gain traction toward thoughts, feelings, and outcomes you actually want.

Do you ever find yourself telling a story that doesn’t even feel good to tell? Maybe you’re talking to a friend over coffee, a cashier in the checkout line, or your partner during dinner. You feel compelled to describe in vivid detail what was said and done to you, in what ways your totally appropriate desires were thwarted, and all the reasons why you’re right? And when you’re done with the story, you feel all worked up, you feel more sure of your rightness than ever, but at the very same time you feel like crap.

Retelling these stories only serve to spin our tires and get us more deeply stuck in the mud. Not only do they lock us into our position, but they spin muck all over everyone within earshot (or eyeshot) of us. You’re not any closer to a resolution that FEELS good to you, and those you love who have listened to your saga feel like they were just vomited on. This is a lose/lose scenario.

Click here for the ASL Interpreted version of this broadcast

Watch your mouth! How the stories you tell may be making you m…

Watch your mouth! How the stories you tell may be making you miserable.
ASL interpreted: https://youtu.be/RkOBffwnWv0

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Posted by Brea Hall on Sunday, October 8, 2017

3 Steps to Getting Traction

  1. Use your oils. Essential oils are a fantastic tool to help us uncover the underlying message of an emotion and allow it to move through more quickly. Here’s a protocol for setting down the story:

1 drop each

  • Lemongrass on the back of the neck
    • A powerful cleanser of emotional energy
    • Helps to release limiting beliefs
  • Eucalyptus across the forehead
    • Helps reveal patterns of thinking that lead to feel un-well
    • Encourages taking full responsibility for your well-being
  • Cardamom on top of head
    • Helps regain self control and mental clarity when frustrated with others
    • A great oil to use when you’re angry
    • Helps to stop blaming others
    • Asks us to take personal ownership and responsibility for our feelings
    • Leads to feeling more peace, calm and emotional freedom
  • Lavender on heart (center of breastbone, at the nipple line)
    • Aids in self-expression
    • Addresses deep fear of being seen and heard
    • You may believe it’s not safe to express yourself–this fear of rejection paralyzes your true voice
  • Frankincense on solar plexus (where ribs meet a few inches above belly button)
    • Reveals deceptions and false truths
    • Invites us to let go of lower vibrations and negativity
    • Helps us break down the walls from the mind and heart
    • Connects the soul with its inner light and reveals truth
  • Balance on soles of feet
    • Like the trees it’s made from, helps you come down from your overactive mind, into your roots
    • Gives stability and inner strength
  1. Meditate. Put on comfortable clothes, sit in a comfortable spot, close your eyes and breathe–ideally for 15 minutes each day. The goal of meditation is not to be without thought. The practice is to come back to your breath and stillness, without judgement, each time the mind gets distracted. When you give your nervous system this experience on a consistent basis, you may start to notice more peace, more patience, and more happiness seeping into your life. There are great resources to help you start a meditation practice: I love Abraham’s Vortex meditations, which you can find on youtube. School of Self has a great visual breathing meditationHeadspace and Calm are 2 great apps. 
  1. Get curious. Now that you’re in this calm, centered place, hold space for yourself to explore. Think of this like holding space for a friend or a child to process and learn, or how a coach would hold space for a client–asking open-ended questions and sitting in empathy. It’s great to journal as you do this, so you can look back on what you’ve learned. Some questions to consider:
    • What am I feeling?
    • What am I thinking or doing that’s causing these feelings?
    • What is my responsibility in this situation?
    • What is the guidance from my higher self or higher power?
    • Some resources I love for asking helpful questions are

As you begin to make your relationship with yourself a nurturing, loving and wise one, you are more able to interact with the world around you from a more nurturing, loving and wise place.

Please let me know in the comments how this goes for you, and join me for Emotions and Oils A to Z on Instagram. If you want to spend some more time with self-care, here are some gifts from me to help you do that.

And may you remember: you are worthy of your love and care.

The Oil of Divine Grace Arborvitae ~ Western Red Cedar What’s the easier way? 🌲 Love, support, and connection surrounds us always. Our narrow, limited thinking is the only thing that can cut us off from it. Arborvitae encourages us to stop resisting, trying, and fighting so hard, and instead to open to the creativity, inspiration, support, and grace that is plentiful. 🌲 When you’re feeling rigid, fearful, and desperate for control, apply a drop of Arborvitae to the top of your head. This is a fantastic oil to use during meditation to help you connect to your higher wisdom, and feel your way toward the path of least resistance. 🌲 #arborvitae #emotionsandoilsatoz #oilcoach #empoweredhealth #selfcarerevolution #feelingsguidetofreedom

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Minding My Business: How I’m Making 2017 My Year

I don’t know about you, but right about now I’m more than a little concerned about the state of our country and our world. There are any number of terrifying scenarios that can (and do, sometimes) keep my brain running late into the night. At times the heaviness mounts to a pressure that threatens to crush my little spirit. How can we make a difference?
In these moments, especially, I lean heavily on my self-rescue toolbox. I push the pause button on my fear and I practice what I preach. I take a deep breath and channel Byron Katie: What’s my business? And I start there.
Some may wonder: How does this help? 
Well, let me tell you. When your airplane is going down and your cabin is losing pressure, you just must absolutely put on your own oxygen mask first. There is no way to be a hero, no way to comfort those around you, no way to make one smidge of difference until you are breathing yourself.
And so, here we are. In our plane which some might say is dangerously close to going down….and I’m putting on my mask.
What does that look like? You ask.
I’m happy to tell you.
Getting a Brighter Focus: Self-Rescue Blueprint
 
When I’m in need of a recalibration, this is my jam. There are probably millions of billions of ways to do each of these steps, so that’s where your own unique creativity comes in. Play with them, make it an experiment, and let me know how it goes!
 
  1. Get Quiet
  2. Think Big
  3. Start Small
  4. Give Thanks
Get Quiet
For me, this requires taking intentional space and time, alone, to just breathe and be. I absolutely must by comfy, so you’ll likely find me in slippers, soft pants, and a hoodie. I suggest you do the same. I might be biased.
Bre comfy
Spend some time, in this quiet alone space, with your breath. You might meditate. You might light a candle and sit in the dark. You might lie on your back and stare at the ceiling with your hands on your belly. You might be in a hot epsom salt bath. Whatever it is, just tune in to yourself and relax. Whenever I do this, I’m astonished by how much tension my body carries out of habit; and as soon as I notice it I feel it start to melt away. It is so magical, and so worth the 10 minutes!
During my quiet time I experiment with fun ways to help me get in touch with my spirit and the loving nature of the Universe. Pick one and start there. Some of my favorites right now:
sticky note affirmations
Think Big
 
Once I’m centered in myself and feeling calm and good, I want to take full advantage of the theta waves I’ve produced. I get to work. What to do while in this headspace?
Start Small
 
After getting all creative and big picture, it’s time to break it down. Teeny tiny bite-sized chunks is what we’re going for here. Whatever it is you just thought Big about, come up with the very smallest, very first thing you’ll need to do to scooch toward it.
Ask: What is the very next step?
 
And now, the hard part: Do that. At the very least, make a non-negotiable date in your calendar to get it done.
Give Thanks
 
Sometimes it’s easy to focus on all that didn’t go right, or what we wished we had, or on all that we’ve lost. When we can shift our focus, even just the tiniest bit, to what we do have, what went right, what gifts the challenge brought us, then a magical thing happens. We begin to take control of our own happiness. We transform our reality by changing our take on it. And it feels really fricking good in the moment. So now’s your chance…try it.
Ideas for finding gratitude:
i am only one
This process could take days or weeks, or it could take minutes. If you’re pressed for time, but committed to shifting your energy and effectiveness, make friends with your timer.
Let’s make 2017 the year we did not refuse to do the something that we could do. Will you join me?