Today I want to talk about the stories we tell, how they actually serve to get us more stuck where we don’t want to be, and 3 steps you can take to gain traction toward thoughts, feelings, and outcomes you actually want.
Do you ever find yourself telling a story that doesn’t even feel good to tell? Maybe you’re talking to a friend over coffee, a cashier in the checkout line, or your partner during dinner. You feel compelled to describe in vivid detail what was said and done to you, in what ways your totally appropriate desires were thwarted, and all the reasons why you’re right? And when you’re done with the story, you feel all worked up, you feel more sure of your rightness than ever, but at the very same time you feel like crap.
Retelling these stories only serve to spin our tires and get us more deeply stuck in the mud. Not only do they lock us into our position, but they spin muck all over everyone within earshot (or eyeshot) of us. You’re not any closer to a resolution that FEELS good to you, and those you love who have listened to your saga feel like they were just vomited on. This is a lose/lose scenario.
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Watch your mouth! How the stories you tell may be making you miserable.
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Posted by Brea Hall on Sunday, October 8, 2017
3 Steps to Getting Traction
- Use your oils. Essential oils are a fantastic tool to help us uncover the underlying message of an emotion and allow it to move through more quickly. Here’s a protocol for setting down the story:
1 drop each
- Lemongrass on the back of the neck
- A powerful cleanser of emotional energy
- Helps to release limiting beliefs
- Eucalyptus across the forehead
- Helps reveal patterns of thinking that lead to feel un-well
- Encourages taking full responsibility for your well-being
- Cardamom on top of head
- Helps regain self control and mental clarity when frustrated with others
- A great oil to use when you’re angry
- Helps to stop blaming others
- Asks us to take personal ownership and responsibility for our feelings
- Leads to feeling more peace, calm and emotional freedom
- Lavender on heart (center of breastbone, at the nipple line)
- Aids in self-expression
- Addresses deep fear of being seen and heard
- You may believe it’s not safe to express yourself–this fear of rejection paralyzes your true voice
- Frankincense on solar plexus (where ribs meet a few inches above belly button)
- Reveals deceptions and false truths
- Invites us to let go of lower vibrations and negativity
- Helps us break down the walls from the mind and heart
- Connects the soul with its inner light and reveals truth
- Balance on soles of feet
- Like the trees it’s made from, helps you come down from your overactive mind, into your roots
- Gives stability and inner strength
- Meditate. Put on comfortable clothes, sit in a comfortable spot, close your eyes and breathe–ideally for 15 minutes each day. The goal of meditation is not to be without thought. The practice is to come back to your breath and stillness, without judgement, each time the mind gets distracted. When you give your nervous system this experience on a consistent basis, you may start to notice more peace, more patience, and more happiness seeping into your life. There are great resources to help you start a meditation practice: I love Abraham’s Vortex meditations, which you can find on youtube. School of Self has a great visual breathing meditation. Headspace and Calm are 2 great apps.
- Get curious. Now that you’re in this calm, centered place, hold space for yourself to explore. Think of this like holding space for a friend or a child to process and learn, or how a coach would hold space for a client–asking open-ended questions and sitting in empathy. It’s great to journal as you do this, so you can look back on what you’ve learned. Some questions to consider:
- What am I feeling?
- What am I thinking or doing that’s causing these feelings?
- What is my responsibility in this situation?
- What is the guidance from my higher self or higher power?
- Some resources I love for asking helpful questions are
As you begin to make your relationship with yourself a nurturing, loving and wise one, you are more able to interact with the world around you from a more nurturing, loving and wise place.
Please let me know in the comments how this goes for you, and join me for Emotions and Oils A to Z on Instagram. If you want to spend some more time with self-care, here are some gifts from me to help you do that.
And may you remember: you are worthy of your love and care.
The Oil of Divine Grace Arborvitae ~ Western Red Cedar What’s the easier way? 🌲 Love, support, and connection surrounds us always. Our narrow, limited thinking is the only thing that can cut us off from it. Arborvitae encourages us to stop resisting, trying, and fighting so hard, and instead to open to the creativity, inspiration, support, and grace that is plentiful. 🌲 When you’re feeling rigid, fearful, and desperate for control, apply a drop of Arborvitae to the top of your head. This is a fantastic oil to use during meditation to help you connect to your higher wisdom, and feel your way toward the path of least resistance. 🌲 #arborvitae #emotionsandoilsatoz #oilcoach #empoweredhealth #selfcarerevolution #feelingsguidetofreedom
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